Good Men: Part Two

I am excited to share this second excerpt from the Barbershop Chronicles, a book dedicated to all the good men out there who desire to be better men.

This book is designed to give you insight into the minds of all the Good Men out there who honor women, take care of their children, support their communities and don’t feel as if they need a badge of honor for doing so.

These men often feel voiceless and homeless because their thoughts and concerns are not often heard. Many of these stories are taken from the one universal safe haven for all Good Men – the barbershop!

Here is an excerpt from the book, which will be released late next month. I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas for other areas we should explore.

Some of you may wonder why the Good Men in your life don’t share their true feelings easily.

In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, author Steven Covey suggests the following: Begin with the end in mind. In other words, before you begin any task or project, know the expected outcome you wish to achieve.

Good Men do not like confusion.

Therefore, if Good Men know their communication is going to end in bitterness, anger, and confusion, we are less likely to communicate. 

Good Men don’t want to live in a place of confusion. We want to live in a place of peace. 

I can hear many of you, including my royal wife, saying, “We don’t want to live in confusion either.”   I know you don’t. That is why you must understand it is good to communicate when we are not hostile towards each other, and if we know the results are going to be volatile, perhaps it’s best if some things remain unsaid. 

Can you imagine what would happen if you said all the things on your mind? Would that be productive?

Almost every day, we read or hear about a domestic situation, where a husband has abused or even murdered his wife or vice versa, or a child has witnessed violence at the hands of one parent against another.  I have personally been close to people, both Good Men and Good Women, who snapped in a moment of rage and the outcome was tragic.

In most cases, the tragic events could have been prevented if both parties would have waited to talk at a time when both parties were calm or when both parties agreed that the discussion would not end in combativeness or confusion.

Royal wives, sensational significant others, majestic mates,  and genuine girlfriends please understand the following:  Good Men are NOT going to be comfortable in a place of confusion, nor will we tolerate being talked down to or verbally abused.  

Once again, we are your mates, not your children.  You are our mates, not our mothers. 

What do you think, readers? Is there any truth here? Do you agree with what I am saying? Disagree? I really do want to hear your thoughts!